Just made a profile on some website. Asked me to describe myself... I tried to have a honest go at it:
Passionate about ideas. Not a funny guy... do get humor but unfortunately humor doesn't get me :) Would be a nerd, but am gregarious. Not really a rock and roll partyboy(love to read too much to party all the time and am passionate about my work).. But not quite a bookworm either ~ never have been one to pass up a chance to rock and roll when the music takes control.. treking, travelling, fun and adventures beckon my soul but am not a vagabound either, being a responsible father, brother, son, friend is important for me. Relaxed but get around. Do business but am not a blood hound. Absolutely average. Your basic down to earth Omega guy with all the cares in the world, who manages to find free time to live inspite of those cares ~ fully!
Monday, September 27, 2010
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Death a taboo for 5 and half year old?
Some people misundertand me sometimes.. which is fine. But some do so all the time. I don't like voilence in cartoons, films. The kind that trivialises death. Good guys killing bad guys all the time. As if that is ok. Thats what I don't like.
I personally don't watch television. Atleast not if I can help it. Not because all TV is bad. But i think it extracts a price, in terms of my time. My time is pretty limited with all the things that call for my attention. Also I do think with TV it will be all too easy to park Naqiyah in front of TV and do my work. I think easy way is not always the right way.
However today on FM, while driving - News came up - 9 soldiers of NATO died in Afghanistan in Helicopter crash. 29 injured in Delhi in foot overbridge crash. Bridge being made in preparation for commonwealth etc etc.
Naqiyah was with me, asked me about it. I explained to her, that some good soldiers died in air crash. And some guys got injured when bridge collasped. She understood.. Asked me where Aghanistan was. What commonwealth games were etc etc. I explained the best I could. End of discussion.
Later at night, saw a missed call from Umaima's home. Was too late.. Found her online and asked her about it, since if Naqiyah calls, she ususally leaves a Voice Message. Umaima was upset. Said Naqiyah was talking about how 9 good soilders died. Some builders died etc.
I asked her if Naqiyah seemed traumatised? upset? sad? I was infact quite taken aback.Worried. But no, Naqiyah just was talking about it casually. Not upset, but definitely it was something she remembered. And made it a point to tell her mom.
Umaima feels I did wrong thing. To explain to her the news item. I should have changed the subject. Ignored it or something.
I think I did the right thing. Death is fact of life. It has not to be trivialised. But nither it has to be made a taboo. By hiding it, avoiding discussing it, u are leaving the child raw. Unprepared for it. But death can come at any time. Any instance, in any form. Sure shoving it in her face is also wrong. I would want my daughter to have nice, innocent, happy childhood. Not a morbid one full of thoughts of death and dying.
So I did some searching. Found lots of resources on internet which address this very issue. Many people are concerned about their children's coping with, or questions about death. Some are unlucky. Their children have had someone near and dear who died. And they seem to not be able to know, how to help their children cope. Others just have children like my Child.. curious. Wanting to know more.
I was concerned. However lot of reading seemed to come up with unnanimous opinion. Hiding, changhing subject, avoiding or making it a taboo does not mean children don't know about death. They know it.. They just get mixed and wrong information about it. Get feeling that we are upset by talking about death and dying. Understand that this topic is bad.. a taboo. Hence get feeling that death is bad, to be feared. This will inevitably mean, they will be more obsessed and scared with death. Unable to deal with the issue.
On contrary if you discuss it in dispassionate manner. Explain the questions when they arise. You calm them. They take it as one more fact of life. Not something to rejoice in, but something which is true. Like fire burns or germs are bad for u. Facts of life. By hiding it we don't avoid the fact! Similarly by refusing to talk about death we don't avoid it.
Ofcourse Umaima feels I always find a way to make 'Internet' agree with me, and i'm wrong. She feels it quite strongly too. She thinks 5 1/2 is too young to answer Naqiyah's question about what it means that helicopter crashed and 9 soilders died. If you dear reader have got your two bits about it. I'm quite keen to know. Is there any right age for letting kids know that people do die ( by the way Naqiyah already is quite aware that people die, this news item was not the breaking of innocence in the matter)
I personally don't watch television. Atleast not if I can help it. Not because all TV is bad. But i think it extracts a price, in terms of my time. My time is pretty limited with all the things that call for my attention. Also I do think with TV it will be all too easy to park Naqiyah in front of TV and do my work. I think easy way is not always the right way.
However today on FM, while driving - News came up - 9 soldiers of NATO died in Afghanistan in Helicopter crash. 29 injured in Delhi in foot overbridge crash. Bridge being made in preparation for commonwealth etc etc.
Naqiyah was with me, asked me about it. I explained to her, that some good soldiers died in air crash. And some guys got injured when bridge collasped. She understood.. Asked me where Aghanistan was. What commonwealth games were etc etc. I explained the best I could. End of discussion.
Later at night, saw a missed call from Umaima's home. Was too late.. Found her online and asked her about it, since if Naqiyah calls, she ususally leaves a Voice Message. Umaima was upset. Said Naqiyah was talking about how 9 good soilders died. Some builders died etc.
I asked her if Naqiyah seemed traumatised? upset? sad? I was infact quite taken aback.Worried. But no, Naqiyah just was talking about it casually. Not upset, but definitely it was something she remembered. And made it a point to tell her mom.
Umaima feels I did wrong thing. To explain to her the news item. I should have changed the subject. Ignored it or something.
I think I did the right thing. Death is fact of life. It has not to be trivialised. But nither it has to be made a taboo. By hiding it, avoiding discussing it, u are leaving the child raw. Unprepared for it. But death can come at any time. Any instance, in any form. Sure shoving it in her face is also wrong. I would want my daughter to have nice, innocent, happy childhood. Not a morbid one full of thoughts of death and dying.
So I did some searching. Found lots of resources on internet which address this very issue. Many people are concerned about their children's coping with, or questions about death. Some are unlucky. Their children have had someone near and dear who died. And they seem to not be able to know, how to help their children cope. Others just have children like my Child.. curious. Wanting to know more.
I was concerned. However lot of reading seemed to come up with unnanimous opinion. Hiding, changhing subject, avoiding or making it a taboo does not mean children don't know about death. They know it.. They just get mixed and wrong information about it. Get feeling that we are upset by talking about death and dying. Understand that this topic is bad.. a taboo. Hence get feeling that death is bad, to be feared. This will inevitably mean, they will be more obsessed and scared with death. Unable to deal with the issue.
On contrary if you discuss it in dispassionate manner. Explain the questions when they arise. You calm them. They take it as one more fact of life. Not something to rejoice in, but something which is true. Like fire burns or germs are bad for u. Facts of life. By hiding it we don't avoid the fact! Similarly by refusing to talk about death we don't avoid it.
Ofcourse Umaima feels I always find a way to make 'Internet' agree with me, and i'm wrong. She feels it quite strongly too. She thinks 5 1/2 is too young to answer Naqiyah's question about what it means that helicopter crashed and 9 soilders died. If you dear reader have got your two bits about it. I'm quite keen to know. Is there any right age for letting kids know that people do die ( by the way Naqiyah already is quite aware that people die, this news item was not the breaking of innocence in the matter)
Friday, September 17, 2010
Happenstances
Ladies, Gents and countrymen.... life is not about living. It is about experiencing. That is what I'm wont to do. I experience, indulge, inculcate, imbibe, aquaint, apply. Rather voluptuosly so. I immerse myself daily in the stream of happenstance.
Yes, happenstance, that's what I feel, my hour to next hour is guided by. A friend happens to call, we happen to meet, we happen to go to a mall, we happen to make a plan to setup some businesses and companies.. Plans present, plans for future. Read, write, plan, argue, think, play, cook, drink, chat, learn, earn, love... life! That's today.
I go to dentist for Naqiyah, it happens to be in a new mall which I don't know about, I happen to visit Daiso ~ a Japanese chain super store, and happen to come across myriad thinga-ma-jigs and stuff which I didn't even know I ever wanted.. and buy, buy and buy.. indulge in orgy of consumer.. Happenstance. I use those things today.. create a case for why a canvas & and easel would make perfect gifting idea for BMW.. why Chinese style top, which is tossed in air rather than on ground, is perfect gift idea for banks and companies wanting to showcase excellence and performance and create an impromptu presentation and case for corporate gifting company that world is waiting for. Happenstance. From Japanese style kite, to solid steel soap, to train set that is my childhood dream come true. Possesed. Exhibited. Used. Applied. Happenstances all!
From a day to the next.. from moment to next, I live by happenstance. I amuse myself wondering what I will be doing next. Because as things are at present, I actually don't usually know.
That's why I take Siesta from the blogging. Not because I've nothing to say. People who know me, know painfully all too well... I always have something to say!
So to give them all a break ~ and make the blog seem less like puke or garbage dump of daily happenstances and incidences..I resist the urge...
Yes, happenstance, that's what I feel, my hour to next hour is guided by. A friend happens to call, we happen to meet, we happen to go to a mall, we happen to make a plan to setup some businesses and companies.. Plans present, plans for future. Read, write, plan, argue, think, play, cook, drink, chat, learn, earn, love... life! That's today.
I go to dentist for Naqiyah, it happens to be in a new mall which I don't know about, I happen to visit Daiso ~ a Japanese chain super store, and happen to come across myriad thinga-ma-jigs and stuff which I didn't even know I ever wanted.. and buy, buy and buy.. indulge in orgy of consumer.. Happenstance. I use those things today.. create a case for why a canvas & and easel would make perfect gifting idea for BMW.. why Chinese style top, which is tossed in air rather than on ground, is perfect gift idea for banks and companies wanting to showcase excellence and performance and create an impromptu presentation and case for corporate gifting company that world is waiting for. Happenstance. From Japanese style kite, to solid steel soap, to train set that is my childhood dream come true. Possesed. Exhibited. Used. Applied. Happenstances all!
From a day to the next.. from moment to next, I live by happenstance. I amuse myself wondering what I will be doing next. Because as things are at present, I actually don't usually know.
That's why I take Siesta from the blogging. Not because I've nothing to say. People who know me, know painfully all too well... I always have something to say!
So to give them all a break ~ and make the blog seem less like puke or garbage dump of daily happenstances and incidences..I resist the urge...
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Eat Love Pray
I gave my copy of Eat Love Pray to someone. I was reading it, and someone asked me for any good books for movie script, I suggested that this would make a great movie. This is about 1 and half years back. Had always nagged me that I never did read the last chapter.
Today grabbed a new copy again, to complete the last chapter which had been unfinished. Suddenly realised that now its indeed a movie - starring Juliet Roberts.
Wow!
Today grabbed a new copy again, to complete the last chapter which had been unfinished. Suddenly realised that now its indeed a movie - starring Juliet Roberts.
Wow!
Stuffed to my heart's content
I've loved Hotpot since Alvin a friend of my introduced me to Little Sheep Hotpot in Shenzhen on my first trip to China. Its my absolute favorite cusine ( as against the dish which happens to be Nian Yue - spicy cooked catfish).
Having authentic chinese hotpot available to me in Dubai is something I have always wished for , but Dubai hotpot restaurants somehow weren't the same flavor. Finally I got my wish fullfilled yesterday nd than again today.. here's how it came about.
I was damn happy with myself, having spent Eid night stuffing a 40foot container in oppressive heat, and gasping for breath at the lack of oxygen, pulling, pushing and shoving plastic gunny bags filled with clothes, to go to Pakistan for the flood victims. Lost my original bb hands free amongst the bags ( as against the duplicate one I bought hence), got a cracking back ache... spoilt my favorite Sun'n Sand shirt.. but am extremely satisfied. This came about due to initiative by VolunteerinDubai website which I came accross via a Facebook 'Like' by a friend, who volunteers as a photographer for them. I shall be doing quite a lot more of volunteering in future I guess.. gives me a good feeling, and I hope to make like minded friends.
So, about 11 pm, when it was done, I was hot, drenched in sweat after 3 hours of manual labour, and hungry (no food whole day). These are the times, when I can't settle for next best thing. I wanted to try and find Sichuan Pepper, so that I could make Catfish (Nian Yue) as I mentioned above. Went to Dragon mart (cutting the story short, as one friend complained , my blogs are absolutely too long and boring), couldn't find what i was looking for, went to chinese cluster of international city, found some groceries but not what i wanted, finally found one grocery who did not have the pepper , but the owner became a friend (a chinese gentleman) and introduced me to lots of sauces and stuff to make HOTPOT at home. Rest as they say is History!!!!
Meanwhile also found URUMUQI restaurant ( My third best chinese chinese cuisine) although visit to it turned out to be dud as they did not have Kababs or Hand grab rice ( Pulao Xinjiang style) and I did not want to eat anything else.
So... almost 1 am... on the way back, was not satisfied that I did not have the actual hotpot, and just the ingrediants, still hungry and a lot more tired..went to mirdiff city center to try carefour. Entered at 1:30 almost at cuttoff time for entry, and 20 mins from the time they closed completely. Found the last remaining hotpot in their stock, and reached back home at 2:30 ( had parked at south entrace, carefour was at north entrace ---- bad GPS Bindi, u're right)
Went home and brewed an absolutely delicious hotpot by about 3:30 ( washed, put away the shopping, cutup the spring onions and toffu etc, setup the hotpot etc etc.. took time!!)....
Heat up the sauce (ready made satchet) in water, add raw meat and vegetables, remove and dip in soy sauce, eat! Fantastic
Yesterday the hotpot I cooked using the flame gel.. but wasn't very strong and took too long. Today decided to do it directly in Kitchen. Same thing, just better!! Bindi - My kitchen is spacious enough.. see I can even eat in it... if a kitchen can be used for dining, I can't complain!!
Having authentic chinese hotpot available to me in Dubai is something I have always wished for , but Dubai hotpot restaurants somehow weren't the same flavor. Finally I got my wish fullfilled yesterday nd than again today.. here's how it came about.
I was damn happy with myself, having spent Eid night stuffing a 40foot container in oppressive heat, and gasping for breath at the lack of oxygen, pulling, pushing and shoving plastic gunny bags filled with clothes, to go to Pakistan for the flood victims. Lost my original bb hands free amongst the bags ( as against the duplicate one I bought hence), got a cracking back ache... spoilt my favorite Sun'n Sand shirt.. but am extremely satisfied. This came about due to initiative by VolunteerinDubai website which I came accross via a Facebook 'Like' by a friend, who volunteers as a photographer for them. I shall be doing quite a lot more of volunteering in future I guess.. gives me a good feeling, and I hope to make like minded friends.
So, about 11 pm, when it was done, I was hot, drenched in sweat after 3 hours of manual labour, and hungry (no food whole day). These are the times, when I can't settle for next best thing. I wanted to try and find Sichuan Pepper, so that I could make Catfish (Nian Yue) as I mentioned above. Went to Dragon mart (cutting the story short, as one friend complained , my blogs are absolutely too long and boring), couldn't find what i was looking for, went to chinese cluster of international city, found some groceries but not what i wanted, finally found one grocery who did not have the pepper , but the owner became a friend (a chinese gentleman) and introduced me to lots of sauces and stuff to make HOTPOT at home. Rest as they say is History!!!!
Meanwhile also found URUMUQI restaurant ( My third best chinese chinese cuisine) although visit to it turned out to be dud as they did not have Kababs or Hand grab rice ( Pulao Xinjiang style) and I did not want to eat anything else.
So... almost 1 am... on the way back, was not satisfied that I did not have the actual hotpot, and just the ingrediants, still hungry and a lot more tired..went to mirdiff city center to try carefour. Entered at 1:30 almost at cuttoff time for entry, and 20 mins from the time they closed completely. Found the last remaining hotpot in their stock, and reached back home at 2:30 ( had parked at south entrace, carefour was at north entrace ---- bad GPS Bindi, u're right)
Went home and brewed an absolutely delicious hotpot by about 3:30 ( washed, put away the shopping, cutup the spring onions and toffu etc, setup the hotpot etc etc.. took time!!)....
Heat up the sauce (ready made satchet) in water, add raw meat and vegetables, remove and dip in soy sauce, eat! Fantastic
Yesterday the hotpot I cooked using the flame gel.. but wasn't very strong and took too long. Today decided to do it directly in Kitchen. Same thing, just better!! Bindi - My kitchen is spacious enough.. see I can even eat in it... if a kitchen can be used for dining, I can't complain!!
Welcome Mohammed & Zara
Just got two new additions to my Family. Mohammed & Zara ( so christened by Naqiyah)
They are baby turtles I bought for Naqiyah as an Eid present. She's absolutely thrilled with them :) I'm glad.. she was jumping with joy at having her own pets. Nd they are just like her! Shy - kept trying to dig under each other, until i put up a shell in such a way that they could go under it and have a roof over their head sort of. Also as yet they don't eat! I don't know, since yesterday am intermittently trying to give them turtle food, some vegetables etc. Hope they start eating soon!
Also for turtles about 30 deg centigrade is preferred temp. Since my house is completely central AC, I'm worried they shall be cold.. Outside in Balcony, temp shall go upto 40 degrees by day.. have to keep them out in evenings, and inside by day or something...
I know, its a bit of a doing, but Naqiyah is thrilled and so am I. I just wish I could get a cat or a dog, but its not possible, given my travelling habit, no one to take care of them in my absense. Turtles, atleast, I can send over to Umaima's place ~ they are pretty good at making themselves scarce, wont scare her, or get in her way. Nway, Naqiyah will take care of them... I think!
They are baby turtles I bought for Naqiyah as an Eid present. She's absolutely thrilled with them :) I'm glad.. she was jumping with joy at having her own pets. Nd they are just like her! Shy - kept trying to dig under each other, until i put up a shell in such a way that they could go under it and have a roof over their head sort of. Also as yet they don't eat! I don't know, since yesterday am intermittently trying to give them turtle food, some vegetables etc. Hope they start eating soon!
Also for turtles about 30 deg centigrade is preferred temp. Since my house is completely central AC, I'm worried they shall be cold.. Outside in Balcony, temp shall go upto 40 degrees by day.. have to keep them out in evenings, and inside by day or something...
I know, its a bit of a doing, but Naqiyah is thrilled and so am I. I just wish I could get a cat or a dog, but its not possible, given my travelling habit, no one to take care of them in my absense. Turtles, atleast, I can send over to Umaima's place ~ they are pretty good at making themselves scarce, wont scare her, or get in her way. Nway, Naqiyah will take care of them... I think!
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
yeh buziness nahi aasan
Yeh business nahi aasan
Mar mar ke karte hai
Customer se ladte hai
Supplier se jhagad te hai
Zaroorat padne par
Dono ke paav bhi padte hai
Product specs ko deekhte hai,
Licensing aur contracts ko jhel te hai,
Timelines ki line lagate hai,
Roadmaps ke nakshe banate hai,
Pipeline bhi to chalwate hai,
Kya pakav cheezo me dimag khapate hai,
Yeh business nahi aasan
Mar mar ke karte hai
Customer se ladte hai
Supplier se jhagad te hai
Zaroorat padne par
Dono ke paav bhi padte hai
Chand sikko ki to baat hai
Eek gaadi aur bangle ki aas hai
Salana foreign holiday ki chaah hai
Iphone, blackberry ka rivaj hai,
Shayad thode 5 star dinners ki talash hai
Bas itni si to baat hai
Yeh business nahi aasan
Mar mar ke karte hai
Customer se ladte hai
Supplier se jhagad te hai
Zaroorat padne par
Dono ke paav bhi padte hai
Yeh dilse nikli baat hai,
Bakwas bizness ka rivaj hai,
Ek inheritance ki aas hai,
Ya lottery ki talaash hai
Mar mar ke karte hai
Customer se ladte hai
Supplier se jhagad te hai
Zaroorat padne par
Dono ke paav bhi padte hai
Product specs ko deekhte hai,
Licensing aur contracts ko jhel te hai,
Timelines ki line lagate hai,
Roadmaps ke nakshe banate hai,
Pipeline bhi to chalwate hai,
Kya pakav cheezo me dimag khapate hai,
Yeh business nahi aasan
Mar mar ke karte hai
Customer se ladte hai
Supplier se jhagad te hai
Zaroorat padne par
Dono ke paav bhi padte hai
Chand sikko ki to baat hai
Eek gaadi aur bangle ki aas hai
Salana foreign holiday ki chaah hai
Iphone, blackberry ka rivaj hai,
Shayad thode 5 star dinners ki talash hai
Bas itni si to baat hai
Yeh business nahi aasan
Mar mar ke karte hai
Customer se ladte hai
Supplier se jhagad te hai
Zaroorat padne par
Dono ke paav bhi padte hai
Yeh dilse nikli baat hai,
Bakwas bizness ka rivaj hai,
Ek inheritance ki aas hai,
Ya lottery ki talaash hai
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